Deacon Board of Ashburn Baptist,
Two and a half years have passed since my mother died. I had grieved her death for nearly 9 months before appealing to my father that he reconsider what he did and did not do for Mrs. Lyons in her final month with us. I have asked others to talk to him as well. However, even after multiple, varied attempts, he has neither denied the facts as I recounted them for him nor answered six basic questions I submitted to him about what happened, to say nothing of admitting any wrong. So what to do?
"The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing."
I must tell what I know. For the sake of Christ's name, the sake of His Church, the honor of my mother, the repentance of my father, the healing of our family and for a strong foundation for future generations of Lyons'.
Please prayerfully review the following and consider joining me in lovingly confronting my dear father.
In Christ's name,
Thomas Lyons
Basic facts:
March 5, 2015 Mrs. Lyons breaks a hip & has surgery.
March 9, 2015 she is moved to rehab (estimated 3 mo.)
Fourteen days later, Pastor Lyons' "self-pay" coverage brings her home.
Mrs. Lyons is brought home to no doctor oversight, no nurse, and only family and volunteers giving care.
Pastor Lyons becomes the caregiver 73% of the time without taking one extra day off. Neither is his preaching and teaching curtailed.
While at Lexington, Mrs. Lyons' INR (blood's clotting ability) was checked daily. But after being brought home, though Coumadin continued to be administered, there was no INR monitoring for 9 days.
A delayed reading revealed an emergency level INR, 4x the acceptable rate. Yet no doctor is called and no remedial action is taken.
The next day she suffers a stroke. It's called "a turn for the worse." She dies within 4 days with no medical or hospice care.
Simple analysis:
Pastor Lyons treated his wife as if she was not worth his time or money that both her condition and her doctors called for. This negligence occurred under a pretense of "better care."
Short list of sins:
Unfaithfulness (to marital vows) Pride (acted against or w/o advice) Greed (concern for money over wife)
Negligence (no doctor oversight) Deceit (“better care” w/o MD or RN)
Primary effects:
Mrs. Lyons dead Family and friends deceived
Ones who see the truth offended Family divided
Needed responses:
• Love
• Forgiveness
• Prayer
• Faith that truth brings freedom
• Confrontation
• Kindness